Any wedding vendor can fly a rainbow flag during Pride Month—but real inclusivity runs deeper than temporary branding. If you’re an LGBTQ+ couple, here’s how to vet wedding vendors to make sure they’re not just rainbow-washed, but genuinely welcoming and affirming. Learn ways to look beyond the symbols, some questions to ask, and how to vet truly LGBTQ+ Friendly Wedding Vendors in NJ

Check wedding vendor websites for inclusivity

Website content is a great way to get a feel for whether or not a wedding vendor is all-inclusive. For example, are you reading the words “bride and groom” or “couples”? Is diversity represented in website images? 

Are you seeing queer couples in those real weddings on social media? And be sure to look for reviews from LGBTQ+ couples on wedding platforms like WeddingWire or The Knot as well as the vendor’s Google Business Profile. Look for mentions of how they made LGBTQ+ clients feel welcome and celebrated.

Ask these 3 key questions for LGBTQ+ wedding planning

Just like anyone else planning a wedding, LGBTQ+ couples also ask potential vendors the important questions like availability, pricing, and services offered. But you’ll also want to ask some vetting questions to determine how LGBTQ+ friendly they are. Here are 3 great ones – and don’t be afraid to follow up more specific concerns.

• “Have you worked with LGBTQ+ couples before?”
• “How do you ensure your services are inclusive?”
• “What steps do you take to educate your team about diversity and equity?”

Their answers will tell you a lot. A vendor who’s genuinely inclusive won’t hesitate or stumble—they’ll answer with confidence and warmth. And that’s an important signal that the vendor you are speaking with is supportive of marriage equality. 

Which leads to the next important tip.

Trust your instincts when choosing your wedding vendors

As a queer couple planning one of the most important, and certainly celebrated, days of your lives, you want to feel seen, heard, and respected. And that starts with a potential wedding vendor actively listening to you. Remember, your wedding vendors should be excited about your love story. 

Vendors who are with you all day (like your DJ, photographer, or planner) need to bring inclusive energy from start to finish. Vendors who truly value LGBTQ+ clients create a space where you and your guests can be yourselves.

Trusted resources for LGBTQ+ weddings

A wedding vendor doesn’t need to be LGBTQ+ to support the community. You’ll find plenty of straight alliances, like LEM Entertainment, in the wedding world. And here are two excellent directories for queer wedding planning.

Equally Wed was founded by a lesbian couple who were having trouble finding vendors supportive of same-sex weddings. Today this platform includes a national vendor directory and lots of wedding inspiration and planning tips. EnGAYged Weddings is another platform offering vendor directories and advice that’s been around since 2009.

LEM Entertainment doesn’t just support marriage equality—we live it through the DJ services we provide to ALL couples. Whether it’s a packed dance floor or an intimate first dance, we believe everyone deserves a celebration that reflects their identity, values, and joy. We’re honored to work with couples of all genders and orientations and we’re here to bring the party, the respect, and the love!

If you’re looking for LGBTQ+ Friendly Wedding Vendors in NJ, let’s get to know each other.